So what's the difference between a Law of Attraction coach and an ordinary life coach?
That's a good question, I'm glad you asked. A Law of Attraction Coach believes that the only limitations which can hold us back are the ones we ourselves believe in and accept, and he works to challenge you on the validity of all the false beliefs that are holding you back. Our thoughts and feelings are broadcast into the Quantum Field (or 'The Universe' if you prefer) and are reflected back to us as the experiences of or lives. To the extent that we are able to control what we send out, we can control what we get back.
I ran a successful coaching business for many years, working with people and helping them to release their limiting beliefs so as to control what they send out and get back.
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Question: Hello Jack. I am SG from India. I am thankful to you for this
ecourse that is so well written and explained.
I have many questions and doubts.
1. As you mentioned in the course to spread love. How can I do that? I want to improve some relationships with my relatives but they don't like me much.
Moreover they think that I am not as rich as they are. All these feelings disturb me and I can't love them.
I also get angry very easily and get hurt very easily. If anyone says something bad about me or doesn't care for my kids I get hurt and always spoil my relationships.
Please suggest how can I improve that. How can spread love?
Thanks in advance.
SG
Jack's Answer: Hello SG, Thank you for getting in touch and giving me the opportunity of helping you.
The first thing to understand is that being loving is a choice. You just decide to do it.
However before you can do that you must learn to forgive. This is also tied in to the anger management issues you mentioned.
It helps if you can realise two things
1) you can't hurt your relatives, or anyone else, by holding a grudge. Your unforgiving attitude will only hurt yourself. It is wasted energy, energy you could be using to build a better life for yourself and your kids.
2) this is a big one, we are all being the best we can be in every moment. Think back over your life. Were there times when you handled things badly, behaved badly? Do you ever wish that back then you had had the understanding and maturity you have today? Then you could have behaved in a better, more noble way. But you did the best you could at the time with the understanding you had then.
Well it's the same with other people. They are doing the best they can with the level of understanding and maturity that they have now
In the future they will grow and mature and be able to handle things better.
So if you can accept that, you can't possibly get angry with them, can you? No of course you can't. Rather you sympathise with them, and feel loving towards them in the knowledge that they are work in progress, same as yourself.
I really do hope this helps but don't rush to force yourself to change. Take your time. Meditate on the things I have said and on the things I teach in the course.
Spend some time at the end of each day reviewing how things went and consider how you could have handled things better. Don't beat yourself up about it though. Be as gentle and forgiving with yourself and you are trying to be with others.
There is another aspect of this that I want to draw to your attention. It's the Fight or Flight Response, sometimes called the Run, Fright or Hide Response.
It's a very old evolutionary adaption that pumps adrenaline, cortisol and other chemicals into the bloodstream in response to a threat. This primes our muscles to fight or flee and redirects more blood to the brain making us very aware of our environment.
Imagine an antelope on the plains of Africa being chased by a lion. The Fight or Flight response will give the antelope a better chance of getting away. If it survives then ten or fifteen minutes later its physiology will be back to normal and the antelope will be quietly grazing once more
But it's different for us humans. We have another evolutionary adaption that is far more developed than in any other species, the brain. Or more precisely, a part of the brain known as the Neocortex. Even more precisely, a part of the Neocortex called the Frontal Lobe.
It's the most modern part of the brain. It's what enables us to be self aware and to remember past events and imagine future events
The human brain, and that of other primates consists of three parts, which evolved at different times. The oldest part is sometimes called the Reptilian Complex because reptiles have this brain. It is also known as the Cerebellum. It s the seat of the subconscious mind.
Then we have the Paleo-mammalian complex, the limbic or emotional brain, responsible for creating, maintaining, and organising chemicals in the body.
Lastly we have the Neo-mammalian complex or Neocortex. This is where we think conscious thoughts and most importantly, where we choose which thoughts to think. This is the seat of the executive function that controls everything else. The Frontal Lobe is part of the Neocortex.
Why is this important?
It's important because we can keep the Fight or Flight response going indefinitely just by remembering past unpleasant experiences or by imagining new ones that haven't even happened yet and may never happen at all.
The Limbic Brain, being more primitive than the Neocortex, doesn't understand the abstract functions of the Neocortex. It just accepts all the information it gets from the Neocortex and acts on it as if it were true.
So if you have an argument with someone, your Fight or Flight response is triggered and you experience anger. Ten or fifteen minutes later your blood chemistry should be back to normal and you should feel calm.
However if you keep replaying the event in your head, over and over, for hours, days or even years, then your blood chemistry never returns to normal.
This is called stress and causes great unhappiness and and over time, disease or even death.
That's why it's so important that we control our thoughts.
In
The Secret, Rhonda Byrne suggests that we keep a stock of what she calls 'Secret Shifters'.
These can be happy memories that we can quickly recall whenever we find ourselves thinking unresourceful thoughts.
They can also be happy tunes we keep on our smartphones or anything else that works for you to shift your mood and get you thinking happy, loving and forgiving thoughts.
I explain all this in much more detail in the
course
My very best wishes
Jack
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